Posted by sandra Dumas on 18:26 Jan 11
My ds6 is so loud. He makes all of his toys talk, and does so loudly. My husband is concerned that my ds is weird, and will be perceived as weird by his friends, especially since my ds doesn't realize no one is listening.
Now he is also incessently making noises under his breath. They are songs, chants, fitzing noises, blowing noises, humming, etc.
My ds is a bit "clueless" as to social cues, and on top of that maybe I've spoiled him.
Also lately I've noticed a lot of rough play between ds6 and dd4, bumping into each other, grabbing each other, him grabbing her shirt and tugging her around, etc. They often do these things on purpose and often end up hurt.
Also my ds likes to take his huge pan of legos and dump them in the living room, (which is 12x12) expecting us to tiptoe around them, and getting upset when we break his creations.
So I've been thinking...this is a manners/house rule issue more than anything.
So far I came up with
1.No toys in living room that take up lots of space.
2.No, talking, chanting, humming, making strange noises, or the like. None. Unless you want to sing a real song.
3. Hands off. No grabbing people or shirts, no bumping and banging into each other, laying on each other, etc. You may quickly hug or hold hands.
4. No talking to yourself or making your toys talk when people are in the room. This is rude, and distracting to everyone else. If you want to make your toys yell at each other go to your room.
Can you guys give me more to add to this list? I feel like I've raised an extremely loud, rough, annoying, and weird 4 and 6 year old. I want to gently work these habits out!
(and yes I do have plenty of kids to compare them to, which I spend a lot of time with. My kids have no idea about house rules and basic politeness other than please and thank you.)